| MercatorNet | May 12, 2017 |
Dad and daughter dynamics
Some tips from the father of four girls.
When I wrote a list of activities mothers could do with their daughter to create a lifelong bond, I hadn’t counted on bumping in to the father-daughter version in my Facebook feed on the same day.
Author, husband and dad to four daughters and one son, Justin Ricklefs readily admits that it’s not easy to be consistent, but he believes working at bonding deeply with a daughter is worth the effort. Justin’s list of 15 Things all Dads of Daughters should know was published on the Huffpost blog a few years back, but its main message is sound advice for all fathers of all times.
These are my top three of Justin’s list. After all, he is a father and a man so I will let him do the talking on this topic:
She wants to be loved. More than she wants the stuff you can buy her or the things you can teach her, she wants you to love her. No one else on Earth can assume your role as daddy. Your daughter will let you down, make huge mistakes, and maybe even turn her back to you for a season, but don’t ever let her doubt your love for her. Look her in the eye and tell her you love her. Lots.
She’s watching how you treat her mother. One of the best things you can do for your daughter is to love her mom well. It’s easy to be child-centered. Running from one kid activity to another. But fight for your marriage and make it a priority. The seasons of life when I lose focus on dating Brooke (my wife) are also the same seasons when our children have more issues. I don’t think that’s coincidental. Love your wife, make time to date her, take her on trips, and show your kids that she is a bigger priority than they are.
Proximity doesn’t equal presence. The simple fact that you’re there doesn’t mean you’re really there. Especially in an era of constant information and entertainment. Turn your phone off when you get home from work. Or at least put it in another room. Your daughter couldn’t care less about your Twitter feed, your emails, your fantasy football team, or your group texts. She cares about spending time with you. Playing with you. Being with you.
All good advice, don’t you think?
May 12, 2017
We have a few reminders in today's articles that religious belief is hard to stamp out. A major report from the Pew Research Centre finds that in the former communist bloc belief has rebounded and that the majority people identify themselves as religious even if they do not go to church or pray. (So there's plenty of work for the churches to do in that part of the world!)
There's a nice coincidence here, since May 13 is the centenary of the famous Fatima apparitions, in which the Virgin Mary warned three shepherd children about the harm "Russia" could do to the world, and urged them to pray and do penance for that country's conversion. See Michael Cook's article on this.
Then, in an essay on Cormac McCarthy we find a novelist who, though not embracing any particular faith is "profoundly religious". Behind his apocalyptic vision of where contemporary culture is leading, McCarthy clings to a belief and hope in a "goodness" that seeks us out. I have not read this author but his last novel, The Road, is said to be compelling -- and so it sounds, from Michael Kirke's description.
Carolyn Moynihan
Deputy Editor,
MERCATORNET
in Europe.
| Cormac McCarthy: Clinging to hope in a devastated world By Michael Kirke The writer’s harrowing visions challenge us in our comfort zones. Read the full article |  |
| Religious belief predominates in former communist countries By Carolyn Moynihan Eastern and central Europe 25 years after the fall of the Iron Curtain. Read the full article |  |
| The message from Fatima By Michael Cook Apparitions of the Virgin Mary a century ago are still relevant Read the full article |  |
| Save an Italian village from abandonment ... By Marcus Roberts ...by moving there! Read the full article |  |
| Why Conservatives should be Environmentalists By Nathan J. Beacom The pre-political demands of our shared home unite us. Read the full article |  |
| Dad and daughter dynamics By Helena Adeloju Some tips from the father of four girls. Read the full article |  |
| Abuse unchecked: why the illegal cutting of girls in the West continues By Carolyn Moynihan The US has its first federal prosecution. Britain after 30 years has no convictions. Read the full article |  |
| With firing of FBI director, a new national nightmare could take off By Luca Trenta Where is the credible justification for firing Comey? Read the full article |  |
| Abortion litmus test forces Democrats to choose By Sheila Liaugminas Make room for pro-life beliefs in the party, or force them out? Read the full article |  |
| Italy’s ageing and shrinking future By Marcus Roberts The next 50 years will also see the North preponderance grow. Read the full article |  |
| Are there ‘good suicides’ and ‘bad suicides’? Or are all of them bad? By Margaret Somerville An elderly Australian couple says that euthanasia is better than life in a nursing home Read the full article |
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