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Millennials, talk to your friends about sex

| MercatorNet | April 19, 2017 |

Millennials, talk to your friends about sex

Millennials, talk to your friends about sex

Don't leave them at the mercy of Tinder, Netflix and social media.
Women Speak For Themselves | Apr 19 2017 | comment 

This article is the second in a series from Women Speak For Themselves about why women of all ages and stages in life need to talk about sex, and why it should be connected to marriage and kids. In our distorted sexual culture, it often feels easier to bow out of these discussions, even with people we hold dear. We can assume that they’ve heard our perspective before. But an “it doesn’t matter” attitude, or an exaggerated modesty, can prevent many women in need from hearing the truth about sex from someone they respect.
As Helen Alvare said in a previous article in this series, 20-something women are saturated with talk about sex. Problem is, they’re not hearing much truth. Millennial women might be cobbling together their understanding of sex from early sexual education (often provided by Planned Parenthood), and selectively edited experiences of friends, combined with media misinformation. Their sexual expectations in relationships might also be shaped by faux-casual boasts at the local watering hole; audacious requests from Tinder matches; risqué Netflix programming; and social media clickbait.
Almost all of the information they’ve ever heard takes for granted that sex and love are separate thingsand certainly that sex and marriage, and/or sex and kids, are separate choices.
Millennials who are more grounded in reality must speak up. Most of our peers have never been told that the choices they make about sex and relationships affect their well-being, their future marriage, their future family formation, and even the success of their future children.
Admittedly, these conversations seem difficult to start. Sex is the most personal aspect of our lives. Many young women committed to postponing sex until marriage come from faith traditions where talking about sex is considered taboo, or immodest.
Yet we can bridge the discomfort by realizing it is our duty as a friend to care about our friends’ well-being. If this sounds like reviving the notion that women should act like sisters to one another, then good. Our sisters need support while making what are potentially the most serious decisions of their lives. This is a kindness women have provided each other throughout history.
Talking about sex doesn’t have to be awkward or preachy, but can flow naturally out of the conversations we already have with the women we’re close to. In fact, these conversations are most fruitful when done from a place of love and friendship, versus judgment or debate.
Like any discussion, it won’t always be smooth. Ultimately, your friends will make their own decisions about how to conduct their relationships. You can only offer them a new perspective, or maybe new information that could inform their decision-making.
So talk to your friends like you normally do. When conversation over coffee or beers drifts to relationships, ask them about what they think makes a healthy relationship—and listen.
What if you know your friends are having uncommitted sex? Even if they seem content with their situation, it’s probably not because they prefer hooking up to committed relationships and marriage. It’s well documented that most women don’t actually enjoy casual sex.
Above all, patiently listen to your friends. Affirm their desires to seek more from their relationships.  I Believe in Love is a great resource for stories from twenty-something singles and couples about how they are working towards relationship success—these stories are perfect for sharing on social media or privately with friends who need encouragement.
You can do this, millennial women! You never know—your loving gift of time and insight may impact the trajectory of the life of a friend, or even generations that come after her.
Republished from Women Speak For Themselves blog with permisison.
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April 19, 2017

You can discover human dignity, or the lack of it, in the most unexpected places. Like airline bookings policies. On April 9, in a story which flew around the world (so to speak), a 69-year-old doctor with a Vietnamese background, David Dao, refused to “deplane” on a flight from Chicago to Louisville, Kentucky. Why should he? He had paid for the flight. The plane was not over-booked, either. The company simply wanted to “reaccommodate” four paying passengers to accommodate four staff members.
Three large policemen dragged Dr Dao screaming down the narrow aisle. According to his lawyer, he suffered a concussion, a broken nose, a sinus injury and two missing teeth.
In the immediate aftermath of the incident the CEO of United sent an email to his employees emphasizing that “Treating our customers and each other with respect and dignity is at the core of who we are” but also “commend[ing] you for continuing to go above and beyond to ensure we fly right”.
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